The Key to finding YOU

To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. ~ William Shakespeare 

 

 

I got to thinking about Self-Esteem and how it is that we come to believing in ourselves and loving ourselves for who we are especially as women who can struggle with negative ideas about our body image then I remembered I already wrote about this on a note I posted on Facebook last year. Enjoy!

It's the Esteem of your SELF!

 by VintageBridetobe Rene on Tuesday, October 20, 2009 at 12:56pm

You can't touch it, but it affects how you feel. You can't see it, but it's there when you look at yourself in the mirror. You can't hear it, but it's there every time you talk about yourself. What is this important but mysterious thing? It's your SELF-esteem!



Many of you have viewed the Kat Williams comedy show where he stated "It's the esteem of your mother&*^%$ self" in reference to a woman's self esteem. "How can I make YOU feel bad about YOU simple b!tch" lol He was too funny but this also is SO true and very deep routed.



What is self esteem, when do you feel its effects and how do you build it after it's been trampled on?



Esteem is a fancy word for thinking that someone or something is important or valuing that person or thing. For example when introducing someone important to me I may say, "This is my esteemed husband Mr....." because I hold him in high esteem. And self, the other part of the word means...well your SELF.



Self-esteem isn't bragging about how great you are. It's more like quietly knowing that you're worth a lot (priceless, in fact!). It's not about thinking you're perfect — because nobody is — but knowing that you're worthy of being loved and accepted.



A child needs to have self-esteem. Good self-esteem is important because it helps you to hold your head high and feel proud of yourself and what you can do. Babies don't see themselves in a good or bad way. They don't think "I'm great!" when they let out a big burp or worry "Oh, no, this diaper makes my legs look weird!" Instead, people around a baby help him or her develop self-esteem. How? We do this by encouraging them AND we also counteract this by discouraging them. Kids are the biggest culprits of ruining someones self esteem because although honesty flows freely from their mouths it is often hurtful and offense to others.



Yes the foundation of your SELF esteem starts at childhood but it is up to you to build it and keep it high.

We all know plenty of adults mistake having material possessions with their self worth and this couldn't be further from the truth.



When do you remember the onset of your self worth as a child? Was it through your grade school and sports accomplishments, people complimenting you on your looks or lots of attention from being the so called popular kid in school?



Do we realize as adults and parents that by telling the young girl that she is 'pretty' all the time will most likely make her think this is her highest asset in life?



Do we realize that by already deciding that our son is going to be a basketball or football player before he can walk is putting sports over education? What if he doesn't even have good eye hand coordination then what?



Do we realize that by telling our daughters that they have 'Good Hair' will most likely make them believe this makes them better than another female whose hair doesn't look like hers?



I was thinking of this lately after being around someone who obviously has a low self-esteem in relation to her body image. I can empathize to an extent but since your self-esteem develops early in childhood and you have had MANY experiences from then til now I'd like to conclude that after 30 years old you can no longer blame mom and dad for your views........ Self reflection and enlightenment are the key to being happy with yourself. No man or woman can give that to you.