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learning to love the dark



Rest in Peace
Daul Kim
I just was looking at this editoreal of her about 2 weeks ago thinking how beautiful and unique she was with both her beauty and her style of modeling. She was found dead in her appartment last week. It is suspected it was suicide. Kim was only 24. So tragic.

It seems like in the past couple of weeks, I have heard so much about untimely deaths and suicide. I have also been hearing a lot of people critisizing the use of anti depressants a lot as well. I admit, I used to be one of those people questioning why people needed to take them. I would wonder why people didn't just let themselves feel or go through the difficult and dark periods in their lives that everyone experiences at one point or another. I would wonder why they didn't just wait it out. I thought that people were cowardly for for simply taking pills to imitate happiness. It wasn't until my own mild depression worsened over the course of about 2 years that I realized that perhaps it was time seek help of some sort. I went to a therapist who helped me see that for many people battling this condition, it is not a choice or simply a rough patch, it is a lifelong struggle due to a chemical imbalance or lack of inhibitors in the brain that are responsible for firing off seratonin, dopamine, etc. There is a profound difference between being depressed and having depression. Indeed, everyone goes through ups and downs in life, some have to climb up steeper hills than others. However, having clinical depression can be hopelessly paralyzing and can cause people to lose interest in anything in their lives, forget who they are and want to give up on life all together, because it would be less painful. I know what it's like to feel like you are trapped in your own evil mind and drowning in misery and it is the worst, most isolated place in the world. Those who suffer from this condition should be medicated if it keeps them alive and it is sad that there is such a lack of understanding and open-mindedness about the treatment of depression. Just because we may not necesarily understand something or someone does not mean that we have the right to vehemently debase something we have never experienced. Perhaps this fear of negative judgment is what drives people away from getting the help they need resulting in them just giving up all together so they don't have to deal with it anymore.

Anyway, I feel like there are so many people who search their entire lives trying discover what happiness is or even what if feels like to simply be able to live a a normal life and enjoy things like most people. It is so tragic that some people feel so hopeless, so alone, and as if it would be better for both themselves and everyone if they were not alive. I wish that everyone who finds themselves in this place
is able to believe in themselves enough to get help and to try to find the light in the darkness even if that means getting some help from a flashlight.




always keep looking...