Why is it that women pick up on the slightest slur and never hear the good stuff? Criticisms are stored forever; compliments evaporate instantly.
"It turns out there's an area of your brain that's assigned the task of negative thinking," says Louann Brizendine, MD, a neuropsychiatrist at the University of California, San Francisco, and the author of The Female Brain. "It's judgmental. It says 'I'm too fat' or 'I'm too old.' It's a barometer of every social interaction you have. It goes on red alert when the feedback you're getting from other people isn't going well." This worrywart part of the brain is the anterior cingulate cortex. In women, it's actually larger and more influential, as is the brain circuitry for observing emotions in others. "The reason we think females have more emotional sensitivity," says Brizendine, "is that we've been built to be immediately responsive to the needs of a nonverbal infant. That can be both a good thing and a bad thing." The way you interpret feedback from other people can depend on where you are in your cycle."There's something about the menstrual cycle that puts your emotional self in a bad light at least a few days every month. About 90 percent of women feel some kind of increased emotionality two to four days before their period starts, where they're crying over dog food commercials.
Do you ever experience this? I know I most certainly do. I will be driving along listening to a beautiful song and all of a sudden a burst of tears will come streaming down my face and I'm thinking geesh is the song really that sad? Nope it's not but now it seems that way because of my cycle lol Women are the most fascinating gender, or at least I think so ;0) So now that you know that it's not just you and NO you are not fat, stupid, ugly or whatever else you may feel especially during your feminine time you can combat it with positive thoughts. Transforming negative thinking doesn't occur instantly though, you have to work on it. How did you ask?
Here are 6 steps to maintaining positive attitude and taking control of your emotions and thoughts to allow endless possibilities into your life.
1. Look After Yourself
As much as you're able to, eat a healthy diet, get as much sleep as you need and exercise, at least once a week!
2. Don't Forget What You've Already Got
When you remind yourself of the things that are good in your life, however small or insignificant you think they are, it makes a difference in maintaining positive attitude and starts to attract bigger and better things to you. Just pause for a minute every day to remind yourself of what you have got.
3. Believing In Yourself
The need to feel accepted by others and to fit in is perfectly normal, as you'd agree. All of us have had a fear or nervousness about what other people might be thinking about us, but what we fear isn't always real.
Regardless of other people's opinions, if you know yourself that your chosen course of action is the right one for you, don't let anyone persuade you otherwise.
4. Watch Your Language!
We tend to think the way that we speak, I know I do just yesterday I was reminded to watch my mouth lol as I have been known to have a potty mouth. If you use certain words or phrases, they will affect the way you think. Maintaining positive attitude means you need to consciously think about the way you phrase things. Avoid using words like "can't", "never", don't".
These words will send your thoughts and emotions the wrong way.
Be aware of what you're saying and thinking. Instead of "I can't afford this", use "I can't afford this yet" or "I can afford this if I...".
5. Be Aware of Negative Thoughts
If you have a moment in struggling with maintaining positive attitude and negative thoughts start to creep in, be aware of what is happening. If you are aware of something, you can control it.
When you notice yourself having a negative thought, recognize it for what it is, make the choice to not let it affect you, let it go and move on.
6. Taking Action - don't Procrastinate
If you get stuck in the headlights thinking over the best way to go about doing something all of the time, you end up doing nothing. Pick one of your viable options and carry it through by taking action. It's easy to become paralyzed with analyzing things too much.
Take action and reap the rewards. Do nothing and receive exactly that.
Keep these 6 steps in mind and use them as a foundation for maintaining positive attitude.
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