So in recent conversations the topic of 'Judgment' has come up. A friend stated that we all judge each other in most circumstances, even on something minute as choosing a friend. We make a judgment based on character in determining if we choose to befriend them or not. Right? But we also judge others on trivial things day in and day out that don't even effect us or our livelihood. Why is that? Is judgment necessary in all walks of life?
The most common forms of judgment come in the external form. We often judge others based on their complexion, race, weight, clothing, age, and gender. Some of these judgments can be harmless no matter true or false, while others can reek havoc on a person's psyche for life. To judge someone is to make yourself responsible for that person's being and dependent on how that person behaves. This is why people can become so outraged by something like a stranger being obese simply because they believe in physical fitness. The strangers weight has nothing to do directly with the judge but they can still feel a personal plight & stress just the same.
The same notion goes for when women judge each other based little things like how another dresses, styles her hair, whether or not she wears make up and the type of man she dates. None of these things directly effects the judge but somehow she can become personally offended of how another chooses to be. Sounds pretty silly right but we all do it.
Now going beyond that onto more serious topics we judge one another based on personal political stances and religious viewpoints as well. I am not one for debating religious viewpoints, even with friends, because I feel that your walk with whomever you choose to worship is personal and because I consider myself spiritual and not religious I don't have a personal yearning to make you believe what I believe. This also goes hand in hand with who I choose to vote for and what political party I support. I have no personal investment in making you choose sides and I find it a waste of time to debate back and forth about why red or blue is better.
I have come to know that just because I feel this is not my place to put forth my personal beliefs on the next man, doesn't mean that everyone is the same. I have come to the conclusion that most people are of full of crap because we all have convenient theories for ourselves based on what our particular circumstances are. We, especially women, love to say what we would never put up with based on what the next woman is doing.
We say things like:
I would NEVER be a baby mama, when we could have because we've practiced unprotected sex ourselves.
I would NEVER have an abortion!
I would NEVER date a man like that!
I would NEVER pay so much for a wedding!
I would NEVER shack up before marriage!
I would NEVER allow myself to get that fat!
I would NEVER yadayadayada
Of course all of these things are based off the fact that we currently don't have to deal with being any of those things but had life been any different for us we would be singing a very different tune.
Truth, however, is multi-leveled. On the highest plane, everyone deserves love and respect but if you discern that a person does not have your best interest at heart then act accordingly. I believe that once we start living in the truth our lives would be so much happier. No longer will you be so concerned about others idiosyncrasies. So the next time you are compelled to judge based off personal preferences remind yourself that it's their choice to be that way. Likewise the next time you are in the company of another and they immediately start a conversation based off judging others choices, kindly remind them there are better topics of conversation worth giving your attention to.
Just my two cents, care to share yours?
Love for Self, Love for Health ™ Lipstick Diva
