I suppose if you asked your grandmother or an elder in your family if you should live with your future husband or wife before the proposal they would advise not to but I beg to differ. Personally I lived with my then college bf for a few years after graduation. I learned a whole heck of a lot about myself and him for that matter, so much so that I just KNEW he was not the man I wanted to marry. Now don't get me wrong it wasn't all shyt storms so let me not paint him in a bad light, let's just say a lot of ish went down and it led to a goodbye and good riddance kind of salute. Just think had we went off the vibes we had back in college and straight to here comes the bride I could very well be a divorcee myself but thank God we chose otherwise.
I think unless you are religious AND a virgin one would benefit greatly from living with their potential husband or wife prior to engagement. I say one with the other because I don't understand how one would be against living together but for premarital sex? idk I do however think that you should set a precedence before the move in like we are to live together for 1 full year and either you shit or get off the pot as my great Aunt Sissy loves to say. This would come only after dating for over a year or more prior to the move in. This way you can see each other in the good and the bad times while in a living situation. You can see how they pay bills, if they have bill collectors calling them or random mail coming in the box, how they clean and keep the house tidy or the lack there of, if they are a morning person or a night owl, if they need personal space right after work, if they like to entertain guests at the house etc etc.
Overall shacking up isn't the end of the world but perhaps I'm just more lenient because this is something I practice and therefore condone. I know someone who basically gave an ultimatum telling her now husband he had to propose before they moved in together and with that she knew the month but not the exact day she was to get her ring based off of the apartment lease expiration date. It worked for her but every relationship is different. Some men can and will move in with you, knock you up, help you raise your kids and yet bead around the bush when it comes to making it official by getting married. As I always say to each his/her own.....
If you were wondering what the bible says about shacking up click here.
What are your thoughts?
