There are tons of magazine articles, vlogs and blogs on how to get hitched. You will find oodles of 12 step programs promising to get you to the altar this year if you follow these guidelines but the truth is there isn't a one size fits all solution to getting you married.
Depending on your 'issue' because we all have them you might need some time to work through some thangs, I know I did ☺ Likewise you just may not be in a place where marriage makes sense, perhaps you are still sowing your wild oats or you don't want to be tied down right now and really enjoy casually dating. There is nothing wrong with waiting either. You may be ready but you are still toying around with boys and not men because there surely is a huge difference between the two. Maybe you are still in love with your ex or perhaps bitter from the last break up. If this is the case taking time to heal from past hurts always helps before you move on to the next relationship.
"Studies suggest you should be at least 26 years old before you get married" but obviously age has nothing to do with readiness or maturity so I'm not sure how accurate that study finding is. Do you agree?
In deciding if you are marriage material thinking about your views on marriage in the first place is a start. What are your reasons for wanting marriage in the first place and how do you envision your ideal marriage playing out? Your attitude towards relationships is also a huge factor i.e. Do you have an easy going personality and don't sweat the small stuff or are you likely to bail at the first sign of trouble? Are you willing to compromise with your spouse or do you think everything should go your way? Neuroticism is particularly deadly for a marriage. Neurotic individuals tend to harbor feelings of anger and hostility, feel frequently self-conscious and irritable and may be prone to depression and anxiety. Finally are you a long term relationship type of person because well marriage is supposed to last a lifetime right?
I said all that to say this don't read too much into these 12 step programs promising fulfillment and happiness if you do xyz. I'm almost 100% certain though that if you keep a dirty house like the picture above that will not be seen as highly favorable but this picture of course is a huge extreme. When we present ourselves and our homes to the person we are dating most people try to put their best foot forward and that just ain't it! lol HOWEVER, not every man requires his woman to know how to cook and while this is a great skill set to have there are plenty of women who are happily married and keep sweaters in their stoves (Sex and the City humor) ☺ You don't have to wear plunging necklines, mascara and push up bras to get married. Not every man wants his woman to dress like a super model. AND you don't have to kill yourself in the gym if fitness is not your thing. Not every man desires his woman to look like an olympian.
My advice is to just be the best YOU that you can be and a man that likes you for you will ask you to be his wife ♥
