People Pleasers …
Have you ever heard the statement, "You can't please them all!" well if so this is so true. Often times, women especially, feel obligated to please each and everyone they come into contact with and just how on earth can you maintain your sanity if that is your goal? Are you a people pleaser? How do you know if you are? Here are some guidelines, read below for more details.
1. People pleasers take most criticism personally
If someone criticizes your work do you take it to heart and do everything in your power to make things more likable for someone else?
2. People pleasers feel an extraordinary fear of rejection
Is your intention to go out of your way performing certain tasks for the approval of others?
3. People pleasers find it hard to express their true feelings because they don’t want to hurt others
Do you walk on egg shells when expressing yourself especially in times of being angered as to not piss off the person who just belittled you?
4. People pleasers have a hard time saying no
Do you often feel overwhelmed taking on additional tasks and responsibilities to please others knowing it is stressing you out and causing unnecessary anguish?
Eleanor Roosevelt was once quoted as saying, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” If you are a people pleaser, it’s likely you struggle with low self-esteem. If you will inconvenience yourself to try to please others, you don’t value your own goals and priorities. If you don’t respect the use of your own time, no one else will either.
I believe you have to walk a fine line in life between learning how to say no and yes to other people's needs and most importantly putting yourself first right after your God. You can't possibly please everyone in your circle and you shouldn't want to because those same people surely aren't bending over backwards for you. So the next time you run into a quandary and you don't want to just say 'NO!' simply tell them "Sorry but that doesn't work for me right now" and say it with a smile, who could resist that? That way you have an opening to tell them the time it may work for you and if you simply don't want to do it you don't have to follow it up with an offer at all.
My take on pleasing people is summed up in this quote, "I despise the pleasure of pleasing people whom I despise." You're loved ones who care about your well being aren't going to ask you over and over to become overwhelmed at your expense and anyone else who does surely doesn't have your best interest at heart anyway.
